I am going to be honest here: I am known for putting up walls and acting like I don’t care to prevent heartbreak. The harsh reality of this is that it makes things worse. Everyone is fighting their own battles and has a history that has scarred them, but living in fear of history repeating itself doesn’t help you, it just hurts your chance of something not working out. Here’s why.
A person can only stick around for so long when you aren’t giving them anything in return.
This is kind of obvious, but if you’re not putting forth the same amount of effort or interest then they are going to think you are just not that into them. You could think they are amazing, but they aren’t going to wait around forever for you to let down your walls and actually make them feel wanted.
You could miss out on someone amazing.
When you are too concerned with playing games, and acting like you dont care then you aren’t working towards getting to know the person. They could be great for you but you would never know because you don’t want to show all of your cards too soon.
You can’t choose whether you get hurt or not.
Life works itself out in crazy ways. Did you think the last 3 boyfriends/girlfriends would cheat on you and break your heart? Probably not. You can’t control whether someone will hurt you. You can walk away when they start mistreating you, but you will never be able to control what someone does before it happens. So live in the moment and enjoy the people you have right now.
You aren’t letting them get to know you either.
You are smoking hot and funny as hell, but if you are too concerned that someone is going to hurt you that you act like you don’t give a shit, then you definitely aren’t showcasing your best assets. Take a deep breath and let things happen the way they are meant to happen. Be your beautiful or handsome self and let people love you! Stop hiding from fear and be you!
The cycle will just continue.
When you keep putting up so many walls to keep people out it becomes really tough to break the cycle; you will become accustomed to not giving a shit about people. It is not impossible to let down your guard after building walls, but it is difficult. It is easier to break the cycle and let down your guard as soon as you realize you have a problem.
Being vulnerable isn’t that bad. Sure, you may get hurt again but you also may miss out on someone who could have given you the world. The thing about life and love is that you can’t be fearful. You have to be bold and you have to put yourself out there until something finally works out. Because something will work out one day.