How I really feel about hookup culture

I am not the kind of girl who just wants to casually hookup, and that’s okay!

As a college woman, I have often found myself feeling bad for lack of having experienced a one-night stand. I always felt that I was missing out on the college experience, until I realized that having fun with my friends during a night out instead of leaving them to hookup is so much better.

Now of course, if you are someone who likes to hookup then that’s cool too! Own that shit and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for it.

But this is for the girls (and guys) who feel like they are missing out on something because they don’t want to have casual sex.

I always believe in doing whatever you want, whenever you want. You only have a certain amount of time in life to enjoy freedom so you might as well use it. But for those who want to use that freedom a little differently then that is okay too.

I don’t find myself wanting to hookup because I am a planner. I don’t want to waste my time with someone that I will never talk to again.

I would also much rather wait the two or three months it may take to find someone new instead of rushing the process and being with the first guy I see.

I have prerequisites that a guy must meet for me to even be interested and that sure as hell isn’t going to change so I can get some.

I’ve started to realize the art of being independent and totally self-sufficient. I don’t want to lose my progress for one night with a guy who will probably kick my out at 2 a.m. and never talk to me again.

Some girls may like that, and there is absolutely no judgement because sometimes I envy you, but I personally have yet to find that to sound appealing.

I want someone who is going to ask me to get coffee or Panera, not someone who calls me at midnight to come “chill.”

I want someone who would be there for me when I am feeling sad, not someone who will be the one making me sad.

I have expectations of what I want out of life and I have wasted too much time on f*ckboys in the past to even think about wasting my college years on casual sex.

I’ve been there, done that and now it is time to do stuff for me, instead of giving my body to random guys who don’t respect it.

So to the girls who are in college and feel like they are missing out because they don’t want to “Netflix and chill,” and to the girls who do, just know that you are awesome and you can do whatever the hell you want. Just make sure it makes you happy and then own the decisions you make.

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